Tuesday, December 31, 2013

May Everyones Year Be Merry and Bright

        As I look back over the last year I am amazed at all the changes that have happened in my little world.  Some I could see coming but others were a complete surprise.    That I imagine is how most of us look back over a year.  In the end we hope the next year will be better and happy to have the opportunity to see what the next 12 months bring.

  So as 2014 approaches I will not make New Year’s Resolutions but instead I will greet it with a smile and a prayer that the year will hold much laugher and happiness for all of you and your tears and sorrows will be few. Here is hoping that every day you see all the magic and wonder in the world that is all around every one of us. I hope you have people or a person that loves and understands you and makes you feel that you are their world.   May each of you find that thing in your life that makes your heart and soul sing.  Each day when you wake up and go out into the world you wish these same things for those you meet.

             So Here Is A Toast To 2014 and Wishing Only The Best For All Of You.

Friday, March 15, 2013


Life is full of memorable events, births, deaths, weddings, divorces  ………………  The list could go on and on with both goodand bad parts of life. If we are all here on earth then we were born.  Where we were born and our families differbut we all pretty much got here the same way. So that is a common experience for all. Death.  Well if you are physicallyalive then you will die. As the saying goes nobody gets out of life alive.  Each of us has a different amount of time weare alive and the way our life ends is unique to each of us.  It is the part in the middle between birthand death that each of us have many choices of which roads we take and theoutcome of each.   

    Some of theseevents are truly GREAT and if you could shout them from the rooftop or hire askywriter to tell the world we would.  IT”SA BOY or GIRL, SHE SAID “YES”!  Then thereare other events make us sad and disappointed. These are still events that are common to most people. Parents die, aspouse leaves, the loss of a job, your pet died but still these are events thatyou can talk about with others.  It has notbeen that long ago when if you had cancer it was whispered.  So many things have changed and there is moresupport out there for each of us. There are still things that we go throughthat we have a hard time talking about.  The shame of the elephant in the room that noone mentions but everyone sees.  Who dowe talk about those things with?

   It dawned on me this week that social mediahas given people a place to find support. You may not be able to tell your family and friends that you have acertain problem but you can go to your face book buddies.  There you can find support andunderstanding.  This week I have seenmany of my face book friends express what trials they are going through. Therehas always been a hug, advice, prayer, or just I’m sorry.  It is wonderful to have people out there thatyou may never met in person care that life has taken you down a road with a lotof potholes. Many have been down the same road and can tell you that the roadgets smoother just up ahead.  All youhave to do is hang on and put one foot in front of the other.

   To my nonface bookfriends it has been hard to explain the intimacy that you can have with peopleyou only see as a cat waving at you with a mustache and a sombrero. That youreally care what the doctor said or that they are looking for a job.  You enjoying looking at their photo andlaughing at their silly wall post. It is fun talking about how things aredifferent where they live than where you live. Plus you find out how much weall have in common.  Friendships reallydo grow in the virtual world.

   I think one of themost interesting parts of this social experiment is that people become so closethat they tell their social media friends their deep dark secrets.   The secrets that they have been hiding sodeep in their closets that no one in the world their real body lives in knowabout. This is such a good thing because I have only seen support given inthese cases.  For every problem out therethat someone is battling there is another who has already been through the samewar and won.  The support I have seen hasbeen amazing whether the issue was addiction, depression, marital, children,parents……………you name it there was someone out there who had gone through thesame journey. The support they offered is real and so heartfelt andtouching. 


   So I think thething we all have to remember is if we need a hug all we need to do isask.  I bet you will be surprised at howmany hugs you get.  Wish somebody HappyBirthday because that might be the thing that makes their day a little better.If you’re pet dies put a picture up and your friends will cry with you.  Can’t sleep in the middle of the night? WellI bet you are not alone.  Basically thatis it none of us have to be alone. We all are just a click away with someonewho is traveling the same road we are on but in different places on the map. Noone needs to travel along.


Thursday, January 3, 2013

So How Are Those Resolutions Coming?

So where are we all at on this resolution thing on day three of 2013.  I hope everyone has started off the year the way they wanted and are changing those things they want in their lives.  If you have not that is OK. I'm sure many of us have not gone to the gym or skipped dessert.  Guess what the Resolution Police will not be knocking on your front door.  Why oh why do resolutions seem to be things that are good for you or more things you really deep down don't want to do. Then when you slip you feel bad about yourself. 
So here is my question why can't resolutions be fun, silly and more about making you happy and seeing how wonderful you and the world really can be.  No one really wants to lose weight, eat right or save money. I'm not saying these are bad goals and by all means do these things because it will make you a healthier person physically as well as financial.  Don't tie them to the beginning of a new year. The New Year is like starting a new book and how many of us would keep reading if it started out like the promises we make to ourselves at this time of year.  You would toss the book in the corner declaring it was the most boring  thing you had ever read.
This is the time of the year to look ahead with hope and joy. Making  resolutions to have more fun, be with people you enjoy and do things you love really sounds like a better way to start off the year.  Think of the fun it would be when someone asks you what your New Years Resolution is and you say " Eat More Chocolate."  This is the way to start the next 365 days of your life.  Imagine waking up in the morning and thinking today I'm going to _________ because it makes me HAPPY.
Personally I don't make resolutions but this year I have made a few and most of them are things that I would enjoy doing.
  1. Do more things that make my heart and soul sing.
2. Take more photos.
3. Enjoy things close to home and do more day trips.
4. Rock the boat.
OK   if the list to be legitimate has to have something healthy on it here it is and it is a BIG ONE!
5. Cut out artificial sweeteners

So on day three of the New Year I have not only been doing what I promised myself I would do but I am enjoying myself. Today I visited a new park and took a some photos. Also I have really done well on the artificial sweeteners. My most favorite one of rocking the boat. I have an 18 year son at home and I can a sure you the resolution is kept many times a day.
So tomorrow when you get up take a look at that list and remember there is no law that says you can't rewrite or even have no list at all.